Confidence. A little cliche, maybe, but like attitude, this is a big one. Firstly, when I think of this word, I envision this huge billboard I see every morning on my way to work. It's Albert Einstein, tongue sticking out in that nanny-nanny-boo-boo fashion, hair all in dissaray as it so often was. Enscripted below his royal genius is the phrase: As a student, he was no Einstein. Confidence: Pass it On.
I love this billboard. Think it's one of the best of the day.
Why is confidence such a huge deal? If you're saying, "Well, duh..." then let's think about this for a moment. Because, believe it or not, a lot of people confuse confidence with arrogance. Two totally different things, naturally, but oftentimes when perveying someone by outward action, one is often mistaken for the other. Take an attractive girl, for instance. You see her, she's got gorgeous hair, a killer smile, beautiful body. Her shoulders are squared, spine straight, she walks with... what? Confidence, right? But so often we perceive her as arrogant. She thinks she's all that and a bag of potato chips, am I right? Just because she's beautiful, just because she's popular, just because we think she's completely unapproachable.
Sometimes that's true.
Most of the time, however, it's not. This idea can be plugged in to a lot of difference scenarios. The confident writer (yeah, OK... *smile*), the confident businessman, musician, the worker in the cubicle next to you who, no matter what, always puts a smile on her face and refuses to say a mean word about anybody. Confidence spreads into the very marrow of anyone who will welcome it. You just have to believe in... who? You got it. Yourself.
Let's do this, then, shall we? Let's have enough confidence in our OWN selves to, one, never judge someone by their outward appearance and, two, always give them the benefit of the doubt. Get to know someone before you slap the ugly scarlet "A" (arrogance) on their chest. Because confidence in yourself leads to having confidence in others. What is it RuPaul used to say? If you don't love yourself, how in the heck you gonna love somebody else?
How do you keep confidence?